Archives for July 2015

Whether you’re a stay at home mom, or a working mom, in my eyes you are fabulous either way.

So death to all the mommy wars!

I’m a full time working mom, and it’s not easy being away from my daughter 8 hrs a day (That’s a lot of time). I feel it’s necessary for me to work harder at spending quality time with her, whether I had a 2hr night of sleep, a long annoying day at work etc. my daughter deserves to spend time with mommy. I am thankful that I have a pretty flexible job, so I am able to go into work early, and still have the rest of the day to spend time with my daughter, so as soon as I get off from work I am rushing home to my daughter, and on my off days I don’t want to anything that doesn’t involve my daughter (so friends, when I say I don’t want to hang out please understand that I’m being a mommy)

I remember being pregnant and people asking me if I was going to go back to work after I had the baby. When I told them yes, I had some people straight critiquing, and giving me their yet again, unsolicited advice.

Telling me that my baby needed me at home and that I shouldn’t go back to work. Saying that a 3 months leave from work isn’t enough. Telling me things that I ALREADY knew, “You won’t ever get these times back” (don’t you think I’ve thought of that).

Sometimes it’s other pregnant mothers criticizing you for going back to work. Rubbing it in your face that they’re going to stay home with their child, and they’re lucky they’re not going to miss any milestones.

Sometimes it’s women who aren’t even mothers, saying what they’re going to do when they decide to have kids (Yea, come back to me when you have a child)

Women give each other enough criticism, I think we should empower one another and stop constantly trying to tear each other down.

I believe we can all learn from one another, and we should practice that.

 Personally for me it’s a sensitive topic, because it’s a hard decision to make having to go back to work and leave my daughter. It’s really hard for me especially, because I am a control freak, and I want things to go my way, or even the thought of her becoming more attached to her baby sister than me.

One thing I am so thankful for is being blessed to have many family members who can babysit, such as my mom, Sekou’s mom or grandmother because that would be another story having to put her in child care with someone I don’t know too well (I could only imagine how hard that could be). [Read more…]

Are mommies allowed to have girls night sans babies?

Since becoming a mother I don’t like going out if I can’t have my daughter in tow .

But last night, it was a good friend (also, Sekou’s cousin) Birthday, so a group of us went to celebrate her birthday at dinner (Sekou missed yet another event, due to a business trip, is it over yet?!!).

Before leaving for our late dinner, I made sure I put baby girl to sleep. I have a rule for myself; to put the baby to sleep before I go out so I’m still the last person she’ll seenwhen she goes to bed, and first person when she wakes up.

But since my daughter has what has to be a sensor for when mommy is not in her bed, she woke up just before I was leaving out, like “hey mom where do you think you’re going?”.

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Monday is that you already?!

You came so quickly, but I open you with open arms, because Alani and I had a GREAT weekend despite daddy not being here (Sekou, we missed you).

This weekend was filled with lots of family time, love, happiness, and laughter.

Here are pictures to prove it! [Read more…]

My mother definitely has to be one of God sent Angels.

I absolutely don’t know where I would be without her, but I am so thankful for her.

I know I said this many times before, but since becoming a mommy my appreciation and love for my mother has been at an all time high (Motherhood really puts everything into perspective.)

so please disregard all those teenage years (but I was a decent teenager overall. Right?!)

we’ve always a good relationship, but this past yr our relationship has blossomed into greatness.

I couldn’t thank you enough for what you do for Alani and I. [Read more…]

It’s always refreshing to know that your close friend is having a baby, just around the same time as your little one.

One of my close friends just welcomed her precious baby girl the other day, and I am ecstatic to know that Alani is going to have a close friend just months apart (This means LOTS of play dates)

Omi and I have been friends since we were 11 years old (whew time flies).

To know that we are embarking on a new chapter in our lives as parents, at the same time is overwhelmingly exciting.

Every time someone tells me they’re pregnant I try to refrain from overwhelming them with advice (I know how annoying that can be)

But Omi, if I could give you any advice in the world I will tell you, do it your way, learn as you go, and your way is JUST fine, you won’t be perfect, but you’ll get through, don’t be too prideful to ask for help, babygirl will still think you’re superwoman:).

Everyone has their theory on how things should work, or what they did back in the 80’s (Just remind them that those times have changed, and they’re long gone). [Read more…]