For a long time I wanted to start a blog I remember I started a Tumblr about 7 years ago, but I’m all about timing and it really wasn’t the right time to start blog, because my life really wasn’t that interesting, and there wasn’t much for me to blog about at the time.
However, once I had my daughter and I realized many people were asking me the same questions about motherhood, things I was using, relationship advice, and about places we visited with our daughter I knew the timing was right. Plus, I think my life became a little more interesting with this little one.
Upon starting my blog I made a vow to myself that the purpose of this blog would be to motivate other parents like myself (a young black mother). If there’s anything I want any of you to take back from this blog is to be the best parent you know how, work on being a better parent than you were yesterday. I also want you all to know that you can start exposing your children to culture, and activities, from a young age, don’t wait on the school system, because some of the best education comes from home, and start from now. I want US all to be able to inspire one another to parent our kids to be the best; better than we are, because they are our future.
My parenting goal is always to be a better mother than I was yesterday.
Also, Thank you to everyone who has been supporting of my blog thus far.
However, when a past family history was filled with angst and despair, we try to make a pact with ourselves, to do it better than how we were brought up. But doing it better always leads to comparisons and stress. By choosing to parent in a different way, you free yourself of the pressure of competing with a memory of bad parenting and allow yourself to learn new parenting strategies that are far more satisfying.
For example, if you were someone who has perfectionistic tendencies, without awareness, you might end up expecting your child to be and act perfect.
Simply put, your child’s “misbehavior” is a direct result of the fact that he cannot control his emotions—and it is one of parents’ most important tasks to teach their children how to do just that. “Your child doesn’t whine and have temper tantrums because he is trying to manipulate you. He isn’t purposely being ‘bad,'” says Pantley, who calls emotion-fueled outbursts on the part of very young children “biologically, psychologically, and absolutely normal.”
Thanks cuz!!
Your blog is a blessing… even to us that are mommies of two and three children!